Monday, May 4, 2009

Sibling Rivalry

Charlie has been busting out teeth left and right and H has been having some 'natural consequences.' Today he cried out "Charlie bit my finger!" Um, did you have your finger in his mouth? "Yes." Okay, don't do that.

Other than that, Charlie's increased activity in general (read: he's long past the lump on the floor stage) is keeping me on my toes. During the times when they're good to each other, I can see the gift I've given them, but sometimes I just want to pull my hair out. Just when I think I'm at my wit's end, H will be patting Charlie's back as he's hysterical saying "It's okay Char!"

It's hard to enforce the concept of being gentle with H when Charlie will grab a fist full of H's cheek skin and all I can do is say "Gentle, Charlie!"...while telling H he didn't mean to. But I guess that's just the way it goes, and H will forgive us all someday.

We had a guest speaker at my mom's group that talked about sibling rivalry. It was actually a set of twins who are also moms and I was so pleased that they focused on the positives of having multiple children; hence having siblings. I know that I would not be the person I am today were it not for the other three people who were raised right along with me (and helped raise me).

Some of the statements they made really tapped into my homesickness. I've been having a hard time as I settle into life here and realize that I could really stay in New England were it not for that pesky my-whole-family-and-life-are-in-Oregon thing and I've come to the point where I no longer want to talk about going home ad nauseum.

I'm getting nervous about leaving because it will be hard to have H leave all that he knows...and Charlie knows nothing but New England. But we'll cross that bridge when we get there.


Crafty Mama said...
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Crafty Mama said...

Kids, esp ones as young as H and C, are pretty resilient when it comes to moves. Plus you'll have familiar people around like your parents and sister(s) and if you're anything like you are out here in New England, you'll probably join a moms' group. or knitting group, too!

That Girl . . . said...

We have the exact same conversations about little j -- she's been to Oregon enough that she knows she likes it there and loves being with family, but moving across the country is a pretty big thing. I agree with Crafty Mama -- kids are resilient and it isn't as hard on them as it is on us!

Amy, Bryan and Zoey said...

Ugh, homesickness! It's the worst! It IS hard to pack up your toddler/preschool age child and remove them from everything they know, BUT Crafty Mama is right--they are resilient and they adjust quickly. And you'll also have the bonus of being close to your family, which makes life (mostly) so much easier!!